
Photo by Cyn Kain Photography
Tis the season for proposals and engagements! The time between Thanksgiving and Valentine’s Day is the most popular time of year to pop the question. If you’re wearing a new piece of sparkle after the recent Christmas holiday, here are my personal initial thoughts on what you should and shouldn’t do first when jumping into wedding planning.
You should…
1. Each of you make a list of top 3 needs/wants/desires you want part of your celebration. Perhaps you always envisioned getting married in your family’s historic church while your partner has dreamt of a live band and good party. Going over each other’s lists together and up front helps set expectations for decisions down the road.
2. Set a budget or at least ball-park amount of how much you intend to invest in your celebration. This may include asking family members or taking an honest look at your own finances. By knowing how much you have available to you will greatly impact every vendor inquiry and appointment later in the planning process.
3. Celebrate! Take the time to enjoy your engagement. Have a small gathering with friends and family. Share the story of the proposal and document it for yourself in a special scrapbook to reflect on later. Make a date with your BFF to buy up all the wedding magazines on the newsstand and start tearing out fun ideas and looks that you love over a bottle of pink champagne!
You shouldn’t immediately…
1. Pick a date. If you have your heart set on a popular venue or vendor, chances are you’re going to be competing with many other couples. Inquire with a range of dates or month options if you’re able to.
2. Extend invitations to your bridal party. Many couples today are having lengthier engagements. By extending immediate and excited invitations to friends and family without first planning the essential elements to your day (where, when, size of celebration) may cause regret for you a later point. Being a member of a bridal party can be a large investment these days. Kindly wait until you have all the important details in place before you start asking others to join in your celebration.
3. Book the first venue or vendor {or insert wedding related item} you see or meet. When you’re first engaged, you’re ready to hit the ground running and are easily enamored with each first place you come into contact with. Take your time, do your research, look around and trust your gut.